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Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wabarakatu hu,
thanks for this very important webside I feel very happy when i came across it.I am a young muslim woman who has a problem with my friend all most five we all follow satan. Thought we to talk to each other but still their is a problem.One night i was sleeping i dream her father we met on the way and he said to me sarara daughter, (my moms name is sarata) you have a problem with my daughter then i also told him that do you what was the problem then he left and told me that i talk between you. walahi.So i call her daughter and asks for forgivenss but she is still mad.Now am asking what should i do.
please email me back please
By: rohey touray on October 11, 2007
at 11:06 am
a salaam o alaikom
you must ask her forgiveness atleast trice and then if she doesnt want it, keep it for Allah swt.
But learn from this big mistake. And know that this doenya this life is not forever, u musnt only think about worldly stuff like fighting with your friends. But think of how you can improve ur life for the afterlife.
AGAIN learn from your mistake!
wa salaam
By: Ahlame on November 20, 2007
at 6:59 pm
Assalamualaium,
Dreams are either good tidingfor us or warnings. It is very important that you look at the details of the dreams and seek advice from elders.
Furthermore it is no´t good to harm people in islam as it is a great sin.
but if you come to realise your mistake ask Allah for forgiveness. it is very important and also the girl.
We all learn from our mistakes no one is perfect.
Wasalam
By: Ida on January 10, 2008
at 7:33 am
assalaamu alaikkum
These things can happen in your age.Try to understand that Allah is teaching you “Sabr”.It can be roughly translated to forgiveness with courage and patience. This situation will help you to become a better human being.
Also remember that prophet(P.B.U.H) pardons a man seventy times a single time.
May Allah guide you properly out of this.
By: Habeeb on January 23, 2008
at 7:04 am
Rohey, you made a good move by asking for her forgiveness. And if she hasn’t forgiven you, then know that at least you have attempted to ask, so inshallah you will be free from question in the hereafter.
When we make mistakes to Allah, we can be sure that Allah will forgive us (Inshallah), for He is most Loving and most Forgiving. But when you hurt another human, it’s quite hard to earn that forgiveness, because as it is, we are humans, and humans aren’t perfect.
If you’re friend is special to you, ensure that you go out of your way to make it up to her.
She should also know that we as humans are minute, and if Allah who is the Greatest who created us can forgive us humans for mistakes that we did to Him, why can’t we forgive for mistakes that we do to each other? We are all fellow human being living in this world. Hatred towards brothers and sisters should be eliminated.
Inshallah she will realise this later on in life and will forgive you. In the meantime, learn from this mistake. Maybe this is a lesson to be learnt fro you as well.
By: Masitah on April 2, 2008
at 7:39 pm
we are 2 our husband marry and the other lady is truoblesom she always said bad things on me .
By: aina on August 14, 2008
at 4:57 am
Assalaam Alykum,
Dear Muslim sisters & brothers, i m in need of ur valuable duwas. Please do duwa for our freedom and happiness. Insha Allah, Allah listen ur duwas, please, please……..
Wassalaam
By: mohammed63 on December 6, 2008
at 5:20 am
Assalaamu Alykum. Dear Muslim brothers, and sisters. I am going through alot of trouble and hard time in my journey through life!! Things have changed in my life so.. much. I have become very very very…. very weak…. after i had lost my precious beloved parents, (May Allah Subhanatallah Grant them both Jannah) I’m finding it hard to even post this, as my Tears are rolling down my face… I understand “Life is a prison for all” have “sabr” and move on.. yet again its very simple to say those in word’s but real hard to perform. I am married to a very nice man(Mashallah) he is my sweetheart & we have a beautiful baby (Mashallah). However, some people have taken advantage out of me after my parents had passed away (May Allah grant them Jannah). However they just wouldnt bugger off even if i tell them to on their face. She would back chat with lies about me everywhere she goes. She almost snatched a few people away who are close tome, due to i was loved. She cant see me happy at all. Shes one of them who would feel scared to mutter on your face, but feel real confident enough to chat crap at your back. She would say bad things about my baby behind my back i dont understand how people can be so vile like that its so heart tearing!!! I almost feel like giving up everything in life because of her. As she is a relative of my mine she would go being a good girl and tell my eldest brother that i had called her up telling her off for no reason. An he will call me up an start shouting at me wouldnt let me gasp a word she’s blind folded him. I would tell him she’s saying nasty stuff about me behind my back, an why cant she say it to me (were same age) why should you.. he still wouldnt want to listen and go barking at me. Well dat was well back since i am very much not in touch with him after the things.. she had caused. She has caused alot of things and have snatched alot of things away from my family member’s she is a very jelous person, thus a traitor but as she pretends tobe a goody front of my eldest brother he doesnt know it. And now she’s dating a guy who i very much knew before i got married, he wanted to marry me, but i didnt feel it as he was in touch with her(She took his number from me as we were good friends at the time, then things deterioted),although she knew about it we liked eachother. But things changed an now they are in love, not sure enough she’s dating so many guys at once, but she most probably doing this to get to me which is pathetic. She snatches and snaches the evil cow. She would even try to take my close friends away from me, that girl has caused so much pain in my life.. i just dont know where to start and end. Life has become a constant sadness for me due to her still trying to snatch things away from me. Ive become so weak, i even sometime’s stay in bed the whole day.. thinking is this life? why does everyone hate me soooo much? why do they take things away why does it have tobe like dat? i want to die whats the point even waking up? i just feel like giving up everything i have. Its so stressing.. i cry to bed almost every night.. thinking if only.. if only.. my mum and dad were here.. everything would be fine i wouldnt have to worry. I would cry and pray in bed ‘Allah please.. please… just let me see.. my mum and dad once again… then ide dream about them and wake up a big smile on my face all happy as my day goes fine!!!! and my husband is such a great dad (Mashallah) he would wake up in the mornings to feed our son, when im still in bed with no sleep as the day turns into light. My day goes so bad.. my husband will say “Dont worry, i’m here u dont need anybody else” But i would be like i understand but dont u think my days would be fine if my parents were still here?! He would be like “Wel it’s life” and i just shutt down. I know i might be all grown up, everyone young old we all have feeling’s and want tobe loved. I would see my cousin’s getting all hugged by their mum and dad telling them this.. that.. is the way of life. Their gran children’s are getin loved. And i would cry to myself if only my parents were here… my baby would be loved and cherished and so will i. I would feel very good in myself. And my parents would be so proud of me. But i dont know, if this would end.. i try to have patience but one day its good other day turns out worse. I realy dont know what to do? If there is anybody out there who i could get good advice from..??? I would be so….. glad!!!!!!! Jazakallah for taking time to read this. And may allah show us all the right path “Ameen”
By: Imaan on December 21, 2008
at 10:56 pm
Wasalam Rohey, If she doesnt want to talk to you. I recommend you to send her a letter asking for forgiveness & your thought’s etc in that way u can express better. And i’m prety sure she’l understand (May Allah show us all the right path) AMEEN x
By: Imaan on December 21, 2008
at 11:13 pm
Wa alaikum salam wa rahmutlahi wa baraktu.Alhamdulilha.My dear imaan, from reading what your wrote i see this lady is a huge burden in your life.Insha’allah i know you hear all the time to have sabr,but through struggle their is ease and Allah(subhana wa tala) will ease your suffering.My dear the best advise i could give is for you to stay away from her,i know its harsh but she is causing you great harm and know that what she is doing is horrible and the worst state to be in because Allah(Subahan wa tal) cursed the one who harms another muslim, so my wonderful dear stay away even if she is family and be around pious muslims and don’t stay alone.The best you could do is try not to reciprocate the evil she is doing and never i mean never stop makeing dua and seeking the help from Allah(subhana wa tala).Always know you’ll be in my dua’as.My dear sister i can tell from what i read your had a strong bond with your parents alhamdulilah.But Allah(subhana wa tala) said everyone will taste death and your parents death is a test for you my dear if you strive to be patient walahi you will be honoured beyond the scope of what you might think in the hereafter you will be of great sight to Allah(subhana wa tala)that is why Allah(subahan wa tala) praised the patient one.My dear no one has been through more trials than the prophets(peace be upon them all) and i suggest you read their stories because it has incrediable insights my dear expecially Prophet Muhammad(salalhu alaihi wa salam).Subhanallah you have been truly bless with a wonderful child and husband praise Allah(subhana wa tala). My dear insha’allah u will meet your parents in the hereafter, i suggest you make dua for them in this life if you truly love them my dear,because its of great benefit to them since they no longer can gain good deeds my dear.Stay in the dhikr of Allah(subahan wa tala) because thats how the heart finds peace and you should love allah(subahan wa tala) more than anyone because Allah(subahan wa tal) only wants the best and know that the tribulations that your going through is of benefit because either your sins are being erased or your being elevated in status.My sweet dear, I pray to Allah(subhana wa tala) to ease your suffering and to fill your heart with sabr and increase your taqwa and imaan and grant u and the ppl you love jannah furdose and grant you the greatest reward which is the sight of Allah(subahan wa tala) ameen. Take wonderful care my dear your in my dua’as.SALAM your sister in islam.
By: ifrah on January 2, 2009
at 2:38 pm
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wabarakatu hu.
. I have just read the Title of the blog and here are some of the Ahadees which are just a translation.
Sorry, I am not reading the full Blog and just going to share my knowledge. so plz be patience
who ever do one good deed will get the reward of ten, our Prophet (PBUH) said, Allah, give more to my Ummah. After some discussion it became 1 good deed= 700 times reward. Our beloved Prophet(PBUH) said , oh Allah giev more to my Ummah then Allah (subhan-u-tallah )said ka who who ever is in your ummah is patience will get unlimited. (Tariq Jamil, PK)
Allah will test you with fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits but give glad tidings to as sabireen who say “inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun.”(Quran Surah-Al-bakara)
Allah is with the patient one(Quran Surah-Al-bakara)
there is no affiction which strikes the Muslim except that Allah expiates with it(sins), even with a thorn that may poke him (sahi-bukari & Sahi-muslim)
seek help with patience and prayers(Quran Surah-Al-bakara)
on the day of resurrection Allah will call the people who live with patience and then send them to the heaven without the questioning (molana Tariq Jamil, PK)
who ever is steadfast and Patience, Allah will give his reward(Quran Surah Yousaf)
Without Allah’s help you could not even be patience(Quran Surah Nahal 116)
aa mosa mara kuch banda aasa han ka janat manga to sare da doon per duna ma sa aak lakree managa to ma wo lakre b un ko nai doon ga, iss lya nai ka mare nazroon ma haqeer han, bulka iss lya ka ma un ko aakrat ke izat dana chata hon(Molana Tariq Jamil , PK)
one sahabi is asked to Prophet (PBUH) that what is the eeman then Prophet (PBUH) said (1)Patience (2)forgiveness. again sahabi asked what is the best eeman the Prophet (PBUH) said that best Iklaq(good to all).
PS: Molana Tariq Jamil is one of the best scholar In Pakistan.
By: Muhammad Atif on January 9, 2009
at 6:22 am
Assalamu ‘Alaikom to everyone. Sister Imaan your story has touched my heart very much because I am going through a similar situation, I would also cry everyday because of some problems, but not family problems. Before I would coment on that, I would like to thank Sister Ifrah for the very wonderful advices. Masha Allah, may Allah (Subhana Wa Tala) shower you and your family with more blessings. Everything that you have been written for Imaan are all wonderful. Please for me also, as I am in a struggle also. I know this too shall pass.
My dear sister Imaan, I will Insha Allah include you in my prayers….that is the beauty of being a Muslim. Please don’t lose hope for God is so Merciful. I could feel the pain that you are going through right now because I have been in a similar situation, crying everyday (I am still struggling actually). This too shall pass. Just be patient. Sister Ifrah is right, do the Dhikr, increase it. This verse has lessen my burden.
“Those who belived (in the Oneness of Allah – Islamic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the remebrance of Allah: verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearst find rest.” Qur’an 13:28
Believe me Sister Imaan, it helps me a lot. For more than a month now, I have been crying everyday. I have been at lost at times…..don’t know what to do and just cry. But Alhamdulillah, I am getting fine now. Alhamdulillah, Allah is so great. As I write this, I am in tears again. Every Fajr prayer and Maghrib prayer, I stay in my prayer mat (than the usual)for the Dhikr. I would cry hardly and said Ya Allah, thank you so much for these tests because it made me even closer to you. Sister Ifrah is right, this could be an expiation of your sins or your status would be elevated. We should even be thankful for these tests. Brother Muhammad Atif’s verses and Hadith’s are the ones that has been shared to me also. When my friends and siblings, sent to me those verses, I printed it in big fonts and pasted it on the wall to remind me always. Maybe you can do the same.
Never give up my dear sister. This too shall pass. Just be patient. Masha Allah, you are so blessed for having a very nice husband and for having a wonderful child. What more can you ask for. Your parents death is just a test. You can surpass that test, Insha Allah. With your problem with the other sister, as long as your intentions are pure, then don’t bother yourself with it, I mean don’t take it so seriously. I know it is not that easy, but you have to move forward. I want to share this thought:
“Our thought will not increase when people praise us; nor will it diminish when they criticize us. Our real worth depends on how Allah sees us.”
“A person who regularly make istigfar, Allah provides deliverance from hardship, grants relief from suffering and give sustenance from sources he don’t know” – Hadith
I hope you are getting fine now. Make yourself busy. I have gone through your situation. I just want to stay in my room all the time, but it is not helpful. Insha Allah, I will include you in my prayers. If you want to write me, you can at ganjai_p@yahoo.com. I am more than willing to hear your stories.
Lastly, I want to share this: “Allah has a reason for allowing things to happen. We may never understand His wisdom but we simply have to trust His will”
There is a beautiful verse which says “Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope……..” Qur’an 2:286
Take care and God bless your family. To Sister Ifrah, take care also and God bless you and your family.
By: jawirah on March 23, 2009
at 12:50 am